Research-backed message reframing
Make difficult messagesclear and kind
Paste your draft. Get a reframed version in seconds.
Ever hit send and immediately wished you could take it back? You’re not alone. Small changes in how you phrase things can turn a fight into a conversation.
How to talk to Her
Your message (from someone who wants to communicate better)
How it works in 3 steps
Your message
What you were about to send
H2T2H
Reframes it for you
Clearer message
Ready to copy & send
The reframe engine
We read your text and pick the best technique—or blend—for the situation.
Annotation coaching
Don't just get a rewrite. Learn why it works.
H2T2H can annotate your draft, showing what may land poorly and what to say instead. It helps you build communication habits, not just copy a better sentence.
Example draft
You never listen when I bring things up, and it's exhausting.
Reframed
Lately I've felt unheard when I bring things up, and I'd like us to slow down and talk this through together.
What the annotations explain
“You never listen” → “Lately I've felt unheard”
Absolutes can trigger defensiveness. Time-bounded wording keeps the door open.
“It's exhausting” → “I'd like us to slow down and talk”
Naming a clear request gives direction instead of leaving only frustration.
Reply coaching
Read the message, then respond with intention
Paste what they sent you and H2T2H helps you respond strategically. You get a quick read of likely intent and emotional tone, three response styles, and one recommended reply you can send or edit.
Incoming message
“I’m tired of repeating myself. This keeps happening and nothing changes.”
What you get back
- Likely intent + emotional temperature
- Watchouts to avoid escalating
- Three reply options (soft, neutral, firm)
- One recommended reply
Response styles
Soft
Lower heat first, validate briefly, then move toward a clear next step.
Neutral
Balanced tone for direct, constructive responses without sounding cold.
Firm
Set boundaries clearly while keeping respect and forward motion.
Use it when it matters most
Whether it’s your partner, family, or work—get the words right before you hit send.
Built to be outgrown
We do not think you should rely on this forever. H2T2H is meant to help you learn better communication patterns, so over time you can write clear, kind messages on your own.
1. Use
Use it when emotions are high and you need a better first draft.
2. Learn
Notice the patterns: softer openings, validation, and direct requests.
3. Grow
Apply those patterns yourself, and need the tool less over time.
Simple pricing
Free translations each hour, or unlimited with a subscription.
Unlimited
$5/month
Was $15/month
Unlimited translations. Cancel anytime.
Built on methods used in couples therapy and conflict research—so you get wording that actually works in real life, not corporate-speak.
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